why do we allow bad people in our society?
it's been about 3 1/2 years now since i helped some one who was supposedly down on their luck, had all kinds of bills and was in just awful shape, well, that was at least how she portrayed herself. so i lent her money, on top of that i bought supper every night for like 2 months, and did many other things like helped her get a job and lent her my car on many occations. even let her take all of my recently deceased mother's clothes so she could sell and we were suppose to split the money on that and even signed for her to get a cell phone since her credit was so terribly awful.
i did at least one smart thing, i did have her sign a loan agreement for a small part of the money and a garuntee i was not to be responcible for the cell phone. i can thank my gorgeous wife for the idea of the contract. i guess she sensed what this girl really was, and she was right.
with my divorce just days old and my mom passing all in a very short time, i was in a weak point, and unfortunately for me and unknown to me i got tangled with a vulture or a scam artist. it's sad people try to live off of other people's money instead of just working for their own. at the time i didn't think she was like that, there were several warning signs, none i really paid attention to until it was too late.
being on the rebound, and now what i could only say must have been sad sad desperation. i did try to have a romantic relationship with her, but i quickly found i had no physical desire for her for several reasons, but being a nice person, i still pursued a friendship with her, helping her out in many many ways. in the meantime i was lucky enough to meet the love of my life and got back into a healthy relationship with a true angel. i don't know if this made the poor girl jelous and that was why she did everything else or if she was planning on scamming me from the beginning. i can't honestly say. but this was about where she went from being a nice friend to being a very un-nice person, and i got to see the depth of her deciept.
one of the things she did was try to get me fired from the job i had helped her get, she came in one night wanting to talk, said something about trying to pressure the owner into paying her overtime that she did not deserve, when i said i wouldn't help her do that, she attacked me by throwing a big walmart sack of ramen noodles at me. it was almost funny, but it hurt, especially knowing she was trying to attack me after everything i had done and the great friend i had been. she left, i called the owner told him what had happened and he told me she was fired and if i saw her ever on the property to call the police. she went later the next day to the owner's motel and tried to lie about me, well, all i can say is i still have my job without any problem, my boss knew me and knew she was, well i think a good term would be unbalanced.
she also told me that she wasn't going to pay me back for the loan and she never planned to. well, i believed her, so knowing that she may just follow thru, i decided to check on the cell phone to see if that was at least ok, and see what i could do to protect myself there since she didn't even have the self respect or moral fiber to keep her word when it was in writing about the loan, why not the phone . well bingo the phone had not had a penny paid on it since it was signed for 4 months ago. they told me they were shutting it off in a few days any way, but i told them to shut it off right then since the person with the phone is so unreliable.
at that point i decided to just turn her over to a collection agency and let them deal with the unstable acting person.-shortly after this she apparently left town, i have heard rumors that maybe i was not the only one she was scamming and she went home to work in her mother's resturant, but i did not try to follow up on any of this. to be honest i was so glad she was well distanced from me and my family.
several months later i got a notice from ebay thta i was some how associated with her ebay account and they had to shut her down due to several fraud complaints, selling cubic zarconia (sp?) claiming it was real diamonds. i did look up the auctions and saw the complaints saying she defrauded 3-4 people, so i had to send in information to prove my account was not associated in any way with her's. i offered ebay the last known phone number i had on her and the address in iowa, but i never found out if they ever cleared up the claims or did prosocute her. all i knew was her ebay account remained closed while mine was restored. this was the time the collection agency said she was a total dead beat and they would no longer bother with this, so i was back to square one. waiting for the very unlikely event that she would suddenly have an stroke of magic and want to pay what she owes me.
a lot more time has passed. i hear she had gotten pregnant had a kid and now supposedly is going to school. so i figure i would try a fairly nice approach and just write her and ask if she is going to repay me, here, let me quote what i wrote, what she wrote, and what i wrote, i'll leave off the names just to be the nice guy that i am.
shannon: wow, in colege, had a kid, does that mean you've matured enough to start paying back the money you owe me?
her:I don't owe you anything, and as for maturity... people that live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones Have a nice life..buh bye!
shannon: oh wow, you bothered to reply for once, great. you know i have a contract for the money you owe me, the loan you sooo needed, all the help i gave you while you were supposedly down on your luck.and as far as maturity, come on little one, i have always been the adult, unfortunately you seem not to have the mentality, moral fiber, or even the ability for maturity. so i ask the simple question. when are you going to start paying me back the money you owe me?
of course as of right now i don't know if she got my reply or not, yeah i was actually a little rude, but can you really blame me after 3 and 1/2 years of waiting, even if she was down on her luck and actually had some kind of morals about going to finally pay me back, knowing that she's in school, and has enough money for a kid....i won't even go into my thought on that cause they are not very nice and that is not like me.
well, here i sit still waiting on her to pay me back. isn't it truely sad what some people do and get away with. i have a contract at least to protect a small amount of the money i lent her, i lent her more than is on the contract, but at least i got proof of what i have in the contract as well as all the phone records. but i just feel sorry for the other people she could have scammed since then and who knows if she still even is doing it to this day. it is just sad really. i feel so very sad for her and i don't even want to think about what she may be teaching her child as he grows older, thank god at least that is none of my business and i keep trying not to think about it. with everything going on in the world, the future is already scarey with out adding the thought of what's in the future if the next generation is raised with so skewed or even wrongful moral values.
all i can do is pray, pray she'll see the light and start paying me back, and pray that was just a mistake in her past and not a pattern for her life. and pray i can again trust people in times of need and help with out fear of being taken to the cleaners yet again.
Posted by shannonwagoner
at 2:48 AM EST
